Borderline Personality Disorder Counselling

We all go through upsetting emotions from time to time, but having recurring extreme emotions is not something everyone goes through. For people with Borderline personality disorder, experiencing rapid shifts in emotions is a common condition. So, what is borderline personality disorder and what do we need to know about it? Let’s take a look.

What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), also known as Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder (EUPD) is a mental health disorder of mood swings of a person and how he reacts to others. It is related to the issues of one’s own self and image, strain in handling emotions and uneven outline of relationships.

It has been noticed that people suffering from borderline personality disorder usually have an extreme fear of desertion and also have instability of emotions while being alone. They also face untimely anger, uneven mood swings, and mostly they want to push others away yet have an extreme desire to love others and want to keep them close.

How to find a Borderline Personality Disorder Therapist

If you are looking to find the perfect Borderline Personality Disorder therapist it is crucial to make sure that they have the appropriate qualifications, knowledge and experience. At Expat Therapy 4U we only accept therapists who have full professional proficiency in English and are highly experienced in working with people from culturally diverse backgrounds. The clinicians we approve share our values and commitment to provide high quality therapy to the expatriate community in the private sector across Europe and online worldwide. We strongly believe that therapy changes lives, and being accredited ensures all our therapists are qualified to a high standard. You can find a Borderline Personality Disorder therapist who is insured to practice and accredited with a recognised membership body online here.

What are the Symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline Personality Disorder typically starts by when a teen comes of age. One might suffer from many circumstances in one’s teen-hood and as one enters adulthood, things get severe with time. People with BPD may face extreme occurrences of anger, depression, and nervousness that can stay for hours or even days.

Below are the most common symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder:

  • Extreme fear of absconding by near and dears.
  • Struggle to get over the actual or fictional abandonment.
  • Having untimely episodes of intense emotions like aggression, grief, dread, etc.
  • Undergoing in extreme conditions like for a moment, saying “I Love You” and in the next moment with real rage, saying “I Hate You”.
  • A concentrated feeling of Desolation and Lonesomeness.
  • Going under situations of driving irresponsibly, binge drinking, having insecure intercourse, using drugs, and wasting time doing nothing.
  • Having a strong urge of hurting one own self like making cuts on the body, attempting suicide, and doing strong drugs.
  • Strongly start liking staying alone and pushing others away to stay in solitude yet trying to spend time with them but have no guts to talk to.
  • Having a distorted outline of thinking - like one’s own self is the worst one and should not even exist.
  • Having inaccurate voices in the head as if these are directions to harm one’s own self or the voices that make one hates one’s family or friends as if friends and family want to kill one secretly.

What are the Causes of Borderline Personality Disorder?

So far, the exact reasons that initiate BPD in someone are unknown but there a number of factors that help to create BPD for sure. Once these are diagnosed, BPD can be eradicated from a person and one can start living one’s healthy and normal life again.

Following are the factors that might be linked with the development of BPD:

  • Heredities: Genes that are inherited from parents who already have BPD, may partially or strongly be associated with the borderline personality disorder. It can be cured with cautious treatment but no BPD due to genetics has been found yet.
  • Mental Irregularities: Neurosciences say that some changes in certain areas of the brain due to BPD are responsible for urges and sensitive regulations. Oftentimes, an unstable level of serotonin, norepinephrine, and acetylcholine causes aggression, despair and destructive urges.
  • Poorly Developed of Brain: Three parts of the brain “Amygdala”, “Hippocampus” and “Orbitofrontal Cortex” is supposed to be healthy at any cost. Any bad effect on them can cause irregularities in managing emotions - such as terror, anger, nervousness; self-discipline, and decision making.
  • Environmental Influences: Environmental factors also contribute to causing borderline personality disorder. Any person who ever had suffered emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, might fall a victim to BPD. Being overlooked by parents and any long-term fear or agony can also result in suffering BPD.

Recommended Treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder

There are many instructions that can be followed to treat Borderline Personality Disorder. An effective plan is the one that suits the severity of a BPD of victims. These include medication, psychotherapy, and group, peer and family support. Even one can treat one’s own self if guided properly.


A medication cure to a BPD victim sounds like a Hard-Aid. Although none of the drugs has been standardized for its treatment, some antidepressants, antipsychotics, and mood-stabilizing drugs can help to calm the nerves of a victim.


Psychotherapy is the best and most effective treatment for a BPD sufferer. There is no burden of keeping an eye on the victim for medication, no hard-n-fast rule to follow, not to be punctual of taking medicines. All that a victim has to do is to spend time with a therapist and follow his/her instructions for one’s own betterment.

The main aims of psychotherapy are to make the patient able of:

  • Concentrating on the capability of working
  • Understanding to handle every kind of emotions
  • Being aware of moods and feelings of others
  • Considering what Borderline personality disorder actually is

Types of Psychotherapy

Following are the types of psychotherapy that are recognized effective for treatment of BPD:

  • Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT): This kind of therapy is specifically premeditated victims of BPD. The chief objective of DBT is to teach one how to handle emotions, conditions of distress, and improvement in affairs.
  • Schema Therapy (ST): This kind of therapy helps clients to classify their own judgments and state of mind. Its main goal is on identifying and changing specific unhealthy ways of thinking.
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This kind of therapy is helpful for people with borderline personality disorder in situations like recognizing and altering their fundamental opinions. Most of the time, this therapy lessens the peril of suicidal attempts and self-spoiling manners.

Find a Borderline Personality Disorder Therapist through the Expat Therapy 4U platform

If you experience such symptoms, you may be going through borderline personality disorder yourself. Fortunately, with professional help this problem can be tackled effectively. Getting in touch with a mental health professional can help you better understand your condition and learn ways to gain a better control over your emotions.

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